You’ve probably heard the clichéd (but wise) phrase “Comparison is the thief of joy.” When it comes to the workplace, this phrase is particularly relevant.
When we compare ourselves to others, we often engage in negative self-talk, which can gradually chip away at our self-confidence. This can, in turn, impede our professional development over time.
Do you ever compare yourself to others and feel you’re not measuring up? It’s a common trap, especially today when social media is full of people’s best moments. According to Psychology Today, research has shown that up to 10% of our thoughts involve comparing ourselves to others.
It might seem harmless, but comparing ourselves to others can lead to negative emotions such as low self-esteem, inadequacy, envy, and resentment. Think about it: If we focus only on what others have accomplished, we may quickly lose sight of our own potential and what we actually need to do to achieve our goals.
Considering this, here are five steps to reframe your mindset and avoid the trap of social comparison.
1. Focus on your unique path
Everyone’s journey is unique, with its own strengths and challenges. Comparing yourself to others is a double-edged sword. While it can inspire motivation, comparing yourself to others can also lead to feelings of inadequacy, especially when you perceive others as more successful.
Many employees in competitive workplaces often encounter a common challenge. For instance, one of my colleagues was making significant progress in her career and was on the verge of being promoted. However, she felt frustrated because she believed that her contributions were undervalued. This was because another coworker was also being considered for promotion at the same level. Such situations can cause job dissatisfaction, leading to a decrease in motivation and productivity.