You’re in a job interview, getting more and more excited about a particular opportunity, and the employer’s really into you, too. But there’s a knot in your stomach. You planned a vacation and it’s quickly approaching. How should you break the news? Is it bad form to bring up your vacation before you’re even offered the job?
There are a few things to keep in mind so you don’t get distracted by the PTO conversation. Yes, the conversation absolutely needs to occur, but with tactfulness and grace, there will be no need to stress.
You do eventually need to mention your vacation—but not until you reach the second interview round. That's when potential start dates may ease their way into the conversation, and the recruiter or hiring manager may ask when you’re available.
First, that is an excellent sign that they want to move forward. Second, that’s a perfect window for you to tell them about your vacation plans.
But even if they don’t bring up start dates by the second round, you still need to reveal your intentions. You’re not asking for their permission—you’re simply telling them as an FYI. The specific reason behind your time off doesn’t need to be mentioned, though I’ve seen that done more often than not, especially when the time off is longer than a week (say, for a wedding or international travel).
Here are two perfectly reasonable examples of how to tell the hiring manager that you’ve got vacation plans:
While we’re discussing start dates, I should note that my friend is getting married in Australia, and I already booked my flights to be there for two weeks in August. I just wanted you to know.
While we’re talking about start dates, I just wanted you to know that I have a trip booked between August 1 and 12, and I should be back to work that Monday, August 14.
Keep it one to two sentences, and even jot down what you’re going to say ahead of time if the conversation occurs on the phone.
Don’t put yourself in the awkward position of starting a new job and then immediately telling your new boss your plans. They’ll wonder why you simply didn’t mention it earlier, and whether you’re prone to keeping important information like this to yourself until the 11th hour.
During my several years as a recruiter, I never saw a hiring manager balk at a candidate mentioning they had time off scheduled soon after a start date. Neither did I see them reconsider extending a job offer because a candidate had a vacation planned.
In companies wherein vacation days are accrued over the course of the year, hiring managers will often allow candidates to borrow from the future; you should make sure to ask if this will be an option (else you’ll have to take the time unpaid). Alternately, I’ve seen hiring managers suggest pushing a candidate’s start date back until after the trip or time off was concluded so that there’s no interruption in pay.
Above all, don’t feel awkward about having this conversation. This happens a lot, and you’re entitled to a personal life. You’ll achieve peace of mind by telling them your plans and knowing it’s not a big deal that you’ll be away so soon after starting.
This article originally appeared on Monster and is reprinted with permission.