“Are you happy?” a curious and adorable 9-year-old girl named Emma asked me last week as my flight from Denver to Austin reached 30,000 feet.
“Absolutely,” I told her.
“Me too,” she said. “My mommy told me that when I grow up I should try to be happy. But I’m already happy so I’m trying to figure out what I want to be next.”
“Oh…” I said. “How are you going about figuring that out?”
“I talk to a lot of grown-ups and ask a lot of questions,” she said. “Have you figured out what you want to be yet?”
“I have,” I said. “I actually help people figure out what they want to be.”
“Really?! You can do that?” she asked, eyes wide open. “Can you help me?”
“Of course,” I said. “What do you do now?”
“I dream, tell stories on stages, dance on clouds, write in my journal, and make people smile,” she said. “Sometimes it’s real, sometimes it’s just something I see in my head.”
“When was the last time you told a story on a stage?” I asked.
“Yeah…” she said, disappointed. “I haven’t done that one yet.”
“Can you create a stage for your family and tell them a story on it?” I asked.
“Yes!” she said. “I can do that.”
“Start there,” I said. “Then never stop finding stages to tell stories on.”
For the rest of the day, I couldn’t stop thinking about this little girl, her insatiable curiosity, and the dreams that, at 9-years-old, she’s beginning to realize.
Whether you’re 9, 25, or 55, it’s never too late to take action on what matters. So how do you take a dream and make it into a reality?
Here’s a planning framework that’ll help you understand which dreams are worth pursuing and how to make them real.
There are three key steps:
1. Identify what you want.
Do you want to write a book? Build a startup? Run a marathon? Travel the world? Tell stories on stages? Take 10 minutes to make a list of the things that you feel you really want to do.
2. Dive deep into WHY you really want it.
Before doing anything, the most important question we can ask ourselves is “Why?” This question gets to the root of our motivations and intentions. It ensures that there’s alignment between what we think we want and what we feel is most important.
There is a concept called the Five Whys, which I first heard about from Eric Reis. It helps in solving problems as you bring ideas to market and here, we can apply it to figuring out which dreams are worth bringing to reality. It helps us realize whether something is worth pursuing.
For instance, let’s say you want to write a non-fiction book about behavior change. Here’s what the Five Whys might look like:
- Why do I want to write a book? Because I want to put an idea I have into an easy-to-read format.
- Why do I want to put it into an easy-to-read format? Because it makes it easier to spread.
- Why do I want it to spread? Because then it has the ability to impact more people.
- Why do I want to impact more people? Because if people read this book, it might spark paradigm shifts and behavioral changes.
- Why do I want to spark shifts and changes? Because then people will lead happier, more fulfilled, and productive lives.
Through this process, the motivation for why you want to do something becomes very clear. More than anything, it helps you make sure that what you want is aligned with what truly matters.
It’s your turn. For all of the things that you wrote down that you really want–do a Five Whys analysis to make sure it’s something that’s really worth pursuing.
3. Gain information and momentum.
In making anything happen, sometimes there’s a disconnect between the theory of doing something and what it’s actually like in practice.
The faster you close that gap, the faster you experience the answer of whether or not it’s really worth pursuing.
That’s why, before fully committing, it is helpful to do two things: gain information from those who’ve already done it well, and guild momentum by making the idea tangible as quickly as possible.
So, for example, if you decide a book is worth pursuing, you might talk to three people who’ve successfully published books, figuring out what the challenges were, how they overcome them, what worked well, and who else you need to talk to. You might also create a Tumblr blog, committing to consistent writing four times a week for the next three months. Also, aim to write guest posts on relevant and more influential blogs two times a month to build your audience.
By talking to people who’ve successfully published a book, you’ll gain insight into the process and next steps. By taking action and creating content consistently, you’ll begin preparing for and building momentum toward your dream future.
Above all, if you’re ready to take action but don’t know where to start, get in touch with your inner Emma, the 9-year-old you who already feels happy and spends time dreaming up big plans for the future.
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