Just got off the phone with a consulting client who has restructured
the people in her business to be aligned with the appropriate job. 
(Honestly, if I only did one thing all day, it would be style and
values testing because it makes people understand their relationships
so well!)

Not only is she happier, but so are the other people on the team. 
According to Gang & Gang, 55% of people are in the wrong jobs. 
Whether you have a corporate job or are a work at home professional, it
means there is a 1 in 2 chance that you are spending a good amount of
time on things you’re not good at doing, or thing you hate to do.  
What does that mean?

Frustration.  Confusion.  Fear.  Doubt.  Anger.  Resentment.

Lovely emotions to live with, huh?

Getting out of these emotions requires some knowledge of self. 
Knowledge of self helps you understand relationships whether they are
personal or business.  Having better relationships with people and
tasks means happier self.  Simple.

Here are three things you must know about yourself in order to have better relationships:

1.  Know your VALUES. Values are the unconscious
characteristics that drive us.  Notice I said unconscious.  That means
you aren’t aware of them until you make a choice to become aware.  What
drives you?  Independence, intimacy, wealth, creativity, relationships,
learning, challenge…the list goes on and on.  Become aware of your top
3 and these are your decision making blueprint.  When one (or more) is
violated, the result is anger, restriction and resentment.

2.  Get comfortable with your strengths. I used to
beat myself up because I stink at filing.  I would spend hours trying
to figure it out, all the while listening to that little voice that
kept saying “See how stupid you are?  You can’t even figure out where
to put a dumb piece of paper!  I can’t believe you’re running your own
company.”   Now that wasn’t so helpful.

We were taught all throughout school to get better at what we’re not
good at doing.  I totally disagree – again.  I say drop what you’re not
good at doing and get it done creatively – barter or exchange, or hire
it out.  You’ll save time, energy and lots of money in the long run by
refusing to be working out of your strengths.

3.  Learn your personal style.  Everybody has “rose
colored” glasses when it comes to experiencing the world.  Some people
are creative and intuitive, some are logical and analytical, some are
bottom line strategists and some are harmonious supporters.  Where most
people get it wrong is they spend most of their life trying to prove
that they’re “right” in their assessment of a situation.  It’s a losing
proposition.  An intuitive will never prove to a scientist that
intuition exists (well, there are some new studies but…)

In short, it’s all about your credibility.  You don’t get to say
whether you have it or not – other people do.  So when you decide to
learn these things you’ll have a whole new perspective on people – and
a whole new way of peacefully understanding them.

Stephanie Frank
Founder and President of SuccessIQ University
Best Selling Author, The Accidental Millionaire

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