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Life In Balance by Simma Lieberman

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Starwood Hotels are Heavenly for Guests and Employees

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Listening to employees can result in service and product rewards.

Does your workplace culture inspire employees to do their best work? Even though we are still in tough economic times do you still provide resources for your employees to develop relationships with customers so they are inspired to return? Do your customers and employees champion your products and services?

 

Nancy London, the Vice President and global brand leader for Starwood Hotels, which include Westin, Sheraton, and St. Regis, answered yes to all three questions.

 

She shared some of her organization’s recipes for satisfied employees and happy guests.

 

1-    “On associate name tags, rather than including their place of birth, they state one of their passions, such as: running or cooking. This gives them a reason to speak with other people about their interests. Associates like that we get to know them better, ask questions that have some meaning, and make it easier for guests to engage them. Relationships are an important part of an outstanding guest experience.”

2-    “We broadened out effort to approach service that empowers front line employees to make decisions and solve problems for guests. Employees at every level are trained and become part of our service culture so they are not “just doing a job,” but it has some meaning. They feel included and are inspired to tell their friends and family about our organization.”

3-    “We ask our employees for ideas, solutions to problems and frequent guest concerns. We hear from people in housekeeping, massage therapists, and bellmen, and implement ideas that increase our success.”

 

Creating a culture where people are listened to and invested in success has resulted in huge rewards and innovation for Starwood Hotels.

 

A man in operations had overheard guests say that the showers were too confining. Later on, when he was in the shower, the idea came to him that a curved shower rod would extend people’s ability to move and stretch while showering. Thus, the Heavenly Bath was born, and now curved shower rods are sold in countless department stores.

 

London told me that she has received dozens of stories from customers about their hotel stay, commending employees and raving about their “heavenly beds,” which I personally have experienced.

 

Nancy let me know that the hotels have “hot rates,” so that employees and their families can stay at hotels and receive that ultimate guest experience and pass it on when they return to work.

 

Speaking with Nancy London about Starwood confirmed what my belief that treating your employees like honored guests equals outstanding customer service, which equals business success.

 

 Simma Lieberman 

"The Inclusionist" 

Simma Lieberman creates workplaces where people love to do their best work and customers love to do business
 
Simma Lieberman Associates 
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Innovation, Leadership, Management, Work/Life, quality of life, work-life balance, workplace environment, Simma Lieberman, Nancy London, Starwood Hotels & Resorts Worldwide Inc., Fast Company Magazine, Sheraton Hotels & Resorts Worldwide Inc.

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Treating Your Employees Like Honored Guests = Outstanding Customer Service = Business Success

Chip Conley, founder of Joie de Vivre, and author of " Peak: How Great Companies Get Their Mojo from Maslow," shares why his employees love to come to work.

Treating Your Employees Like Honored Guests = Outstanding Customer Service = Business Success

 

Chip Conley, founder and CEO of Joie de Vivre, the largest group of boutique hotels in California, believes in treating his employees like honored guests. He knows that in turn they’ll provide the kind of extraordinary customer service that will guarantee return business, and recommendations to friends, family and colleagues.

 

I had just read his book, “Peak: How Great Companies Get Their Mojo from Maslow,” and was curious to see if he was really as passionate about his work and his employees as he sounded in his book. I soon discovered that his passion was exponential and contagious.

 

While many organizations have cut back on employee benefits, appreciation programs and teambuilding events that increase fun at work, Chip refuses to do that.  He says. “Happy employees equal better workplaces which equals increased profit.

 

After working with us for three years, salaried employees get one-month paid sabbaticals.

 

All employees and their families are given two free nights per quarter at any Joie de Vivre Hotel. If they choose not to use their nights during any quarter, they can bank them for a longer stay.

 

Employees also get discounts on massages and spa services, and can take any of the lifestyle class that Joie de Vivre offers which include; learning a new language, how to cook a Thanksgiving turkey, and how to have a more balanced life.”

 

As I spoke with him at one of his properties, Hotel Vitale, I could see and hear the love he had for his work, and the value he placed on all of his employees feeling included and experiencing the joy of life.

 

When I asked him how he maintained his own life balance he replied, “I’m energized because I’ve been living my calling. I love coming to work. I take vacations, make use of our spa services, and practice yoga and meditation.”

 

Conley went on to say, “Every day I affirm that as I surrender, more love comes to me. I’ve learned that I can’t do everything, and that I need to let go of things I can’t control.”

 

He has also learned to be “off the clock,” and even have no e-mail Fridays, which for many of us would be worse than withdrawing from the most addictive drug.

 

“I named my company Joie de Vivre because I wanted to find more joy in my life.”

From what I’ve observed, he has.

 

Simma Lieberman 
"The Inclusionist" 

Simma Lieberman creates workplaces where people love to do their best work and customers love to do business
 
Simma Lieberman Associates 
510.527.0700 
Fax: 510.527/0723 
1185 Solano Ave. PMB 142 
Albany, CA 94706 
www.simmalieberman.com  

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Topics:

Innovation, Leadership, Management, Ethonomics, Work/Life, quality of life, work-life balance, great places to work, diversity and inclusion, Simma Lieberman, Chip Conley, California, Fast Company Magazine, Culture and Lifestyle

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How Cisco Creates Loyal Employees; Life/Work Integration Policies Pay Off

An employee who loves to do her best work and keep her family happy.

Loyal employees are not born. Their organization creates them. In searching for some examples, I met Ann-Marie Yap, a senior manager at Cisco. She provided me with some extraordinary reasons why she loves her work and why she stays where she is.

 

Ann-Marie said, “My partner and I have two young children. We’ve learned to be conscious of how to balance work and family, and LGBT parenting can have it’s own particular challenges

 

“It’s important to me that I work in an organization where there is a culture that values all of its employees and that demonstrates LGBT inclusion throughout the organization. I’ve found that to be true at Cisco. I’ve gotten all the same benefits and respect for my work and my family as every other employee that works there.”

 

I’ve consulted with other organizations that have high scores on policies and procedures regarding LGBT equality, but they have still not created a culture where LGBT people feel safe disclosing their orientation so they don’t even take advantage of the offered benefits.

 

It was refreshing to hear what Ann Marie had to say about working at Cisco.

 

“With a 6 year old and an 11 month old baby, I’ve had to make some choices about my time and priorities. At the same time I couldn’t stop working.”  

 

“We sometimes feel like we are at the center of the universe, but it’s just the organization’s universe.”

 

She said that in making decisions about time, she asks if she really needs to be involved or attend a particular meeting.

 

I’ve personally worked with too many organizations where people think that inclusion means everyone needs to attend every meeting so they create a culture of micromanaging and call it employee involvement.

 

Yap went on to say, “My work involves mapping processes and determining what adds value and what adds time.”

 

Along that line, there are times when I can work from home or out the office.” T

 

The key takeaway Ann-Marie has is that Cisco projects a culture of collaboration – “a part of that is the utilization of our own technology to be able to work when and wherever we may be.”

 

 Cisco has the equipment that makes it easy to be productive and not have to be on site when it isn’t necessary. If one of my children is sick or has an appointment I’m able to be with them.”

 

She gave me some examples of technology that allows CISCO to be flexible and support its employees being successful:

1-   A system that allows cell phone rollover so that the number that shows up on caller id is the office number

2-   Soft phone technology on laptops. A picture of the office phone and dial pad appears on the screen in order to make calls from anywhere, as though it is the actual desk phone. With WebEx, an employee can virtually attend meetings, and participate in video and teleconferences.

 

“Working at CISCO allows me to be a good parent, and partner and still add value and contribute to the success of the organization. I’m fortunate that I didn’t have to make a choice of family or career."


Simma Lieberman 
"The Inclusionist" 

We create workplaces where people love to do their best work and customers love to do business

Simma Lieberman Associates 
Consultant,  Speaker, Author   

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Helping People  and Organizations Create  Profitable Cultures
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Stress Management for Executives During Stressful Times
How to Create a Low Stress Environment for Your Employees and Keep Them Productive
Cross Generational  Dialogues
How to Work Effectively With Four Generations at Work



 

 

Topics:

Innovation, Technology, Leadership, Management, Work/Life, quality of life, work-life balance, workplace environment, Cisco Systems Inc., Simma Lieberman, Ann-Marie Yap, George Simons, Kate Berardo

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Are Your Employees Also Your Honored Guests?

Here is a sure way to enhance the quality of life for your employees and customers.

If you don't create a culture where employees love doing their best work, why would you surprised if your customers are unhappy?

When I was ordering dinner through room service in a very upscale hotel whose name I won't mention, I asked the woman who was reciting the specials to me to make a recommendation.

She replied, "They're all good." I pressed further and asked her which one of the specials she enjoyed the most.

I was shocked when she told me that she hadn't tasted any of them because they weren't allowed to eat the food. I wondered how servers could make an honest suggestion  or give their opinon.

I've worked in and with the hotel and restaurant industry for over twenty years. I have never not been able to taste the food, so that I could help patrons make decisions that would match their palates.

I let the hotel employee know my thoughts, and told her that I would write a letter to the owner, which I immediately did. I never heard back. 

I did hear later, however, of the high turnover of the staff and customer complaints about the service.

It's obvious to me. Treat  your employees like honored guests which will make them feel good about themselves and their work, and they will treat their customers and fellow employees like honored guests, which in turn will mean repeat business and a better brand.

By treating your employees like honored guests, you help improve the quality of their life and make it easier to balance work and home because when they go home they feel good about what they do. When they treat their customers like honored guests they are helping to improve the quality of life by providing each customer with a great experience.

I compared the experience at the hotel whose name I won't mention, with my experiences at Chez Panisse, a well known restaurant here in Berkeley, CA. I love every meal. The service is outstanding. I always feel like an honored guest and the servers are all well versed in the food, the taste and ingredients and are able to describe each dish in a way that makes me want  to try everything and return for more. For years, Chez Panisse has recognized the importance of treating their employees well. Employees get to taste everything and when they make a recommendation, I know it is honest and  I'm able to trust their judgement. I've enjoyed every meal I've experienced there.

Why is it difficult for some managers and leaders and business owners to not make the connection between happy employees and happy customers?

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Innovation, Leadership, Management, Work/Life, quality of life, work-life balance, workplace environment, Culture and Lifestyle, Food and Cooking, Recipes, 7, C

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How Oracle and Sun Microsystems Can Reduce Buy-out Stress

Mergers, Acquisitions and Buyouts can be stressful and ruin a good day if steps aren't taken to help employees be successful.

As an organizational development consultant, I have worked with several organizations that have either merged, or where one has bought the other. Based on best practices and mistakes I’ve experienced with clients I offer ten ways for Oracle and Sun Microsystems to reduce stress amongst their employees. Some of them may already be in process.

1-   Recognize that no matter how great their employee reduction packages are, leaving will still be extremely stressful.

2-   Provide up to date information on the change process to employees. There is always anxiety when organizations merge, or one buys the other. The more correct information people have, the more they feel in control of their situation, even if they have no influence over events.

3-   Be aware of rumors and misinformation, and stop them before they spread.

4-   Create an environment where managers and employees have direct communication and managers are visible. Provide opportunities for people to talk with managers and each other.

5-   Recognize and accept that there are two distinct cultures involved.

6-   Stay away from focusing on how you think employees should react and focus on how they are reacting,

7-   Identify specific cultural differences and how they will impact both organizations.

8-   Develop and implement a process so that employees understand specific differences in culture.

9-   Determine what adjustments employees need to make in order to be even more successful.

10-  View this as a diversity and inclusion issue and provide tools to employees so they can leverage the differences and find commonalities.

Simma Lieberman 

"The Inclusionist" 

Simma Lieberman Associates 
Consultant,  Speaker, Author   
Diversity and Inclusion, Gender Communications, Power Living
510.527.0700 
Fax: 510.527/0723 
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Helping People  and Organizations Create  Profitable Cultures
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Innovation, Leadership, Management, quality of life, work-life balance, workplace environment, Simma Lieberman, Kate Berardo, Science and Technology, Technology, Information Technology

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Finding Calm In Stress

how my dog locked me out of house and helped me find peace of mind

Finding Calm In Stress; how my dog locked me out of  house and helped me find peace of mind

 

 

When my dog locked me out of the house Sunday night, I was able to find peace of mind in the stress.



 

It all began Sunday morning. After getting only four hours of sleep Saturday night, I had to get up and spend eight hours in a strategic planning session in San Francisco. I don’t know about anyone else, but after six hours my mind had to work extra hard to make sense of information. Eight hours was my limit.

 

I got home mentally exhausted and wiped out. I decided to spend some time in my backyard. There were ten plants still in little green boxes threatening to die after sitting in the yard for four weeks. It was time to save them.

 

I am by no means a gardener, but I couldn’t just let the little plants expire.

 

As tired as I was I went in the yard and began digging, pulling weeds and taking the plants out of the little boxes.

 

I had to put my sixty pound lab/ Shepard mix in the house because he was trampling the potential flowers.  I could hear him in the house barking to get out, and pushing to open the door. But I was getting into the whole “earth, dirt and nature thing,” and ignored him.

 

After four hours outside, it started to get dark, foggy and very cold. Being wet and muddy hadn’t bothered me while the sun was out, but it got uncomfortable very quickly as the fog rolled in. I had reached my backyard limit when I accidentally stepped on a spot where my dog had relieved himself that I had missed during the clean up.

 

I couldn’t wait to get into my house, take a shower and put on dry clothes.

There was a slight problem however, I couldn’t open the door. I pushed harder thinking it was stuck until it became apparent that my dog had somehow managed to lock it, when he tried to get out.

 

He stared at me through the window glass and I could just hear him laughing at how he got his revenge on me for keeping him inside.

 

I called my fifteen-year-old son who was several miles away.  He  “tore” himself away from his friends to come home and let me in. 

 

As I waited for him, my first thoughts were of how miserable I was, and how the last few hours of relaxation were ending with one major stressful incident.  I caught myself whining and realized that I had some choices about how I perceived the situation. I thought about how funny I looked sitting on my porch, wet and muddy.  Since there was nothing I could do for awhile, I could take some time to appreciate the work I had done, meditate and clear my mind. No one could call me because my cell phone was in the house. I couldn’t check my email, nor could I work on any projects. I could either stress out waiting or let go and relax.

 

It took my son forty-five minutes to get there but the time went quickly and when he arrived I was calm, and refreshed, and my mind was at ease.  You never know when you’ll have the opportunity to relax, and sometimes we have to find the relaxation and calm in our stress.

Simma Lieberman 

"The Inclusionist" 

Simma Lieberman Associates 
Consultant,  Speaker, Author   
Diversity and Inclusion, Gender Communications, Power Living
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Fax: 510.527/0723 
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Innovation, Leadership, Management, Work/Life, quality of life, work-life balance, workplace environment, Simma Lieberman, George Simons, Kate Berardo, Gender Communications, Thomson Learning Inc.

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Executives Under Stress During Stressful Times Need Executive Stress Solutions

Executives Under Stress During Stressful Times Need Executive  Stress Solutions

 

According to the National Institutes of Health, “people who feel more in control at their jobs tend to feel less stressed out.”

 

While executives and senior leaders have more control of their work, they manage people who feel like they have less control, which makes them stressed out

 

Employees in general are feeling more anxious and stressed. They’re worried about lay-offs, wage freezes, and reduction in benefits. If they are in an organization where there has already been a reduction in the workforce, they want to know what will happen in the future plus they may have “survival guilt.”

 

As an executive, you have to know how to manage your own stress plus lead your employees who may be having a hard time focusing on their work. 

 

As a leader you may feel responsible for your employees and your organization to the detriment of your own health. At the same time you need to be able to look confident and calm so you don’t pass your stress onto everyone else.

 

It becomes a stress cycle, but there are actions you can take. 

 

• Learn how to use self-talk to keep yourself focused and prevent or stop negative thinking. Either bring in an outside consultant to teach your employees or use internal resources if available.

• Learn and practice basic stress management exercises that involve breathing in order to relax during the day and recharge your mental, physical and emotional energy. If you appear relaxed it will help your employees.

• Talk to other senior leaders to vent and share best practices for stress solutions.

 

Having worked with executives for over twenty years, I can tell you that executive stress is real, and you are not alone. Being a stressed out executive is not a reflection on your leadership abilities but not doing anything about it can negatively impact your focus, productivity and profit. Who can afford that?

Simma Lieberman 

"The Inclusionist" 

Simma Lieberman Associates 
Consultant,  Speaker, Author   
Diversity, Inclusion, and Talent Utilization
510.527.0700 
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Helping People  and Organizations Create  More  Profitable Cultures
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Innovation, Leadership, Management, Work/Life, quality of life, work-life balance, workplace environment, Simma Lieberman, Stress Stressful, National Institutes of Health, Kate Berardo, George Simons

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Risk and Reward on a French Water Slide: is your business making a splash?

Starting a business is always risky. For those of us who’ve started successful businesses we’ve had to balance risks and the promise of rewards. Sometimes you feel the fear but do it anyway, because if you don’t do it, there will be a part of your life that never gets lived.

There are other risks that we take that seem to have nothing to do with our work life but the risks we take in our personal lives are intertwined with the risks we take in our business.

I got to experience what I considered to be a risk, and move through my fear at a water park in Biot, France with my fifteen-year-old son. My son has always loved amusement parks and water parks; the scarier the ride, the better. I’ve developed an intense dislike for both. The bottom line is that I hate not being in control, and being spun around like a top by an exterior force that I can’t stop. Just being in a theme park was enough to feel like my stomach was in my throat.

During our recent trip to France, my son went online and discovered a water park thirty minutes away. As hard as I tried I couldn’t get out of taking him there. I warned him that I wouldn’t go on any of the water rides with him. I went with him knowing I would be bored. I even took a book to read.

Once we got there, I was impressed at how different this water park was from ones I’d experienced here in California. It was very clean; it didn’t feel overcrowded and rushed. I imagined myself going on some of the slides. I decided I would try going down one and felt comfortable enough knowing that it would be okay if I changed my mind if it felt too out of control.

I got my son to go on the slide with me. I summoned all of my courage, visualized the ride down, turned off my negative thoughts, climbed the stairs and slid down into the water. I proceeded to several more slides that were higher and steeper, and each time it got easier and more fun.

I felt like this was a great achievement. I had broken through a fear barrier and was successful. 

I realized that there was a business corollary to this “magnificent accomplishment.” Having a successful business, creating a new product and getting it to market means taking a risk but we can control when we launch our new products, who we involve and knowing that if we fail we can use it as a learning opportunity and do it differently next time.

Simma Lieberman 

"The Inclusionist" 

Simma Lieberman Associates 
Consultant,  Speaker, Author   
Diversity and Inclusion, Gender Communications, Power Living
510.527.0700 
Fax: 510.527/0723 
1185 Solano Ave. PMB 142 
Albany, CA 94706 
www.simmalieberman.com  

visit my Fast Company expert blog
http://tiny.cc/balancedlife 

Helping People  and Organizations Create  Profitable Cultures
Learn more about the  must-read diversity book from Thomson Learning: Putting Diversity to Work, how to successfully lead a diverse workforce, by Simma Lieberman, George Simons, and Kate Berardo.   

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Talent Utilization- diversity and inclusion next steps

Stress Management Coaching for Executives

How to Create a Low Stress Environment for Your Employees and Keep Them Productive

Cross Cultural Dialogues- how differences in race, gender, and age can  increase profit and improve lives
How to Work Effectively With Four Generations at Work
 

 

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Innovation, Leadership, Management, Work/Life, quality of life, work-life balance, workplace environment, France, Simma Lieberman, Culture and Lifestyle, Travel and Tourism, Outdoor Recreation

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Are You Planning a Vacation or a Staycation?

“Staycations” are a myth and waste of time for entrepreneurs and business leaders.

In case you’re wondering what a staycation is, here is a definition from Wikipedia.

“A staycation (or stay-cation, or stacation, or staykation) is a neologism for a period of time in which an individual or family stays at home and relaxes at home or takes day trips from their home to area attractions.”
 
Telling me to say at home and have a staycation is like telling me to sit at my computer and not check the news or email for eight hours. Impossible!  I can just imagine telling my 15 year old son that we are on a staycation for a week, and explaining that it was a form of vacation and we were going to spend the week going to local museums, not answer the phone, no texting and no World of Warcraft.  He would wonder what heinous crime he had committed to be punished like that.

As a business owner, it’s hard for me to imagine shutting my phone off, no email and no business transactions for a week, even though I’m in my home and haven’t really gone anywhere. That staycation would become a “stresscation.”  I don’t know who would run away first, my son or me.

I suppose I had a staycation of sorts last year. I was hit by a car and stuck on my couch for several months. It was grueling.

I’m not saying that staycations are not good for some people, I’m just saying that for a business owner or business leader it wouldn’t be the most relaxing time.

Having a good life/work balance means that we’re able to be present in all aspects of our lives, and know how to eliminate, reduce or manage stressors. 

For some people it may mean that they go away on vacation and set up a specific hour a day to answer email, and take care of any other necessary business. It also means that the rest of the time they can relax at the beach, sit by the pool or do nothing.

I once went on a vacation to Hawaii with a friend who couldn’t leave the hotel because she was afraid of missing a call or email. I set up a time every day when I would do that. My friend ended up stressed. She was never quite able to relax.  I had a wonderful time and came back relaxed, calm and looking ten years younger.

If I took a staycation with my son, it would mean we’d have to leave the house at 6:00 AM, and use flashlights instead of electric lights to keep neighbors and friends from knowing we’re in town. We’d have to keep the blinds closed and live in fear of being found out. What would we do if friends asked to see photos and video from the vacation? We’d have to admit that we never went anywhere and just didn’t want to see them.

Every year I go to a camp in the Yosemite Mountains. There is no email and only pay phones. That’s the time when I have my assistant take care of my email, phone calls and other business. Of course I worry at first that I’ll miss something big, or think that only I can deal with a particular email or call. I catch myself ruminating, take a deep breath, remind myself that I trust my assistant and let go.

I do have to confess that I buy a phone card and every few days I use it at night to check messages, which I can do nothing about.  There was another time when I went to the mountains and in the midst of writing a report for a client that was due in two days.
 I didn’t want to change my plans. I finished the report while in Yosemite and since we had no Internet or cell phone service in the mountains, I drove around with my laptop open to every campground and lodge until I found an open network. I pressed send, let go and went swimming.

Having just come back from a three-week vacation in London, Nice and New York feeling renewed, I know a staycation would never work for me.  I’d end up more stressed than I was before.

Topics:

Leadership, Management, Careers, Work/Life, Magazine, quality of life, work-life balance, workplace environment, London, Wikimedia Foundation Inc., Hawaii, Yosemite National Park, World of WarCraft

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Building Relationships Can Reduce Stress; NY cabbie finds cell phone

A recent experience reinforced my belief that building relationships can relieve stress and that having a diversity and inclusion outlook can help build relationships.

 

My son and I were in New York for a few days on our way home to California when I left my cell phone in a taxicab. Not only did the cab driver try to find me, he was kind enough to deliver my phone to the reception desk at The Muse hotel where I was staying.

 

I was on my way to meet a friend for dinner. I noticed that the cab driver had a Farsi name and asked him if he was from Iran. There had been big demonstrations earlier that day to protest the Iranian election. The cab driver, Jimshad and I struck up a conversation. I think he was somewhat surprised at my knowledge of Iranian history and that I was so interested in the election. We talked for the fifteen-minute cab ride and for about fifteen minutes before I got out.

 

We discussed the political situation, our families, and the fact that he was a chemistry professor during the school year. I told him I was from New York and gave him my name, which is actually common in Iran.

 

I was so involved in our conversation that when I got out to meet my friend I left my phone on the seat. I didn’t notice it until after I had finished my dinner and decided to call my son. When I couldn’t find my phone in my purse, or in the restaurant, I became somewhat frantic. “How would my 15 year old son reach me? How would I reach everyone in New York whose numbers were programmed into my phone.” My stress level was raised significantly in a very short time.

 

I realized that I had probably left my phone in the cab, but didn’t remember the cab company or the driver’s full name. My friend had just called T-mobile to see about getting me a new phone the next day and I was resigned to my loss.

 

When I used my friend Joel’s phone to check my voice mail. there was a message from my sister that the driver had spoken to her and he had my phone. My stress level went way down in an instant.

 

 The driver, Jimshad, had found the phone and realized that it was mine. He knew my first name and when my sister called to reach me, he answered. She told him where I was staying and he brought they phone to my hotel. When he dropped it off, he told the people at the front desk, how much he enjoyed speaking with me and was so glad that he could get my phone to me.

 

Everyone was amazed that something like that could happen in New York. Cab drivers meet so many people during their shift. Had I not struck up a conversation, he wouldn’t have remembered my name and me. The phone would have just ended up in the taxi lost and found never to be found by stressed out me. If I hadn’t studied history, and culture and not been a diversity and inclusion consultant, I wouldn’t have been able have an interaction that was significant and memorable, so that he would be able to locate me and take the time to return my phone. My contacts would have been lost and I wouldn’t have been able to call anyone to make plans and have a wonderful time in New York. We never know how an interaction can have a future impact on our lives.

Topics:

Leadership, Management, Work/Life, quality of life, work-life balance, workplace environment, Health and Fitness, Mental Health, Stress, Iran, California

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