My life changed on day 3 of Impact TrainingsQuest. Unless you have experience a change like this in your life, I am not sure if I can explain it to you. Impact Trainings didn’t change me. Although as a result of going through Impact Trainings I see the world differently than I did before. My personality is the same; I still like the same things; in many ways I still act the same way. Unless you were close to me, you probably wouldn’t have notice the difference on the outside (like I said before, I was already happy). But for me, the difference was life changing. It was as if my life came into focus (since Impact TrainingsQuest, I have experienced this focusing many times, each time it’s as if I can see more and more of the big picture).I could see things and connection in my life that I was unaware of before. I became very clear as to why I was behaving the way I was (not just how I was behaving, but why my life was the way it was). At this point, life started to become very simple. Now that I could see these connections and how I was creating my results, I naturally started to choose different results. It didn’t take any effort; it was very natural to choose differently. It was like finding a road map, so I wasn’t lost. I saw things differently and I felt different as a result. All of this is something I experienced at the core of who I am, not just knowing in my head, but feeling it from head to toe. (In looking back after learning a great deal about the behavior and the psychology of man, I could now tell you all about breaking down the walls of limiting experiences that had built up over my lifetime. About why I had thought and acted the way I did and also about why and how I changed the way I feel. But just knowing all of this doesn’t change anything. One has to experience the change in their life to have it be a real part of their life and that’s what happened at Impact Trainings for me. I still find it amazing that at Impact Trainings instead of reading about it and trying to make a change in my life, I simple experienced the results. I truly had all the answers within me all along, I just didn’t know how to get at them.)
As a result of this new awareness, I started to feel a new forgiveness for people and myself. As I let go of the weight I had carried, I felt free. I thought I had forgiven many of these people before, but now it seemed as if I was forgiving them on a much deeper level. (For me this was a starting point. Over the years I have gone through the process of forgiveness many times. Each time, it seems to be deeper and deeper. As if I was working a fish hook out of the skin. By not letting go of the past, I had held myself prisoner. At this point in my life, the past is over. I virtually never think of past offences. The past doesn’t bring me pain any more. I have let go of that. I feel truly free.)
In addition to forgiving others and myself, I started to let go of my concern about what others thought of me. (It is bizarre to me, how the ego is so concerned about approval and what others think. Reminds me of junior high school. lol) For some reason, I didn’t seem to worry about what others thought of me as deeply. It was as if, the deeper I could see into myself, the more OK I was with me and the less I needed other people’s approval. (Again, this was a starting point. I am still growing in this area. But the self judgment I experience now is just a tiny tiny fraction of what I felt before going through Impact TrainingsQuest.)
When I crawled into bed at the end of day 3 of Impact TrainingsQuest, I had a smile on my face and peace in my heart.
I am also posting some of the links to Impact Trainings Videos. If you are concidering coming to Impact Trainings, take a moment and click on the links below and watch what graduates of Impact Trainings have to say about their experience and what they have learned.
Being in love again - What we learned at Impact Trainingsassisted us in healing our marriage and rekindling our love. Once our marriage was on track, we have been able to focus outside of ourselves and serve our community.
This is Heaven- Impact Trainingshas made significant changes in our family’s lives. I have never seen anything that has assisted us in working through life’s challenges like Impact Trainings.
When my wife decided to go through Impact Trainings,
I wasn't looking for anything different in my life. I had a good job. I
loved my wife and kids. Overall, I would say life was going good and I
was happy. My wife on the other hand, wasn't so happy. Sometimes, I
could see she was sad, but when I would ask her what's wrong, she would
say something like, “I don't know, I'm just not happy." I didn't know
what to do to fix the situation.
One day, our doctor told us about a program in Salt Lake City that we might want to check out. We knew nothing about Impact Trainings,
so we went to their free guest presentation to see what it was all
about. After the training, when my wife asked me how I felt, I told her
I felt good. She decided to give Impact Trainings a shot and we signed her up for the next available Quest Training.
To be honest, I wasn't really expecting much of a change. I didn't think a training
could do much. I thought she would come home with a workbook or a CD
and it would sit on the table gathering dust. I couldn't have been more
wrong. On Saturday night I went to her graduation at Impact trainings,
I was very surprised. Everyone was happy. I watched my wife interact
with people and I could tell that she had developed very close
relationships with these people in only four days. But it wasn't until
we went home that I really noticed the shift that had taken place. She
and I stayed up and talked all night long. It had been a long time
since we had just talked. By time she fell asleep (5:00am) I had fallen
in love with her all over again. I remember watching her sleep thinking
to myself, "This is the woman I always thought I had married." Impact Trainings
didn't fix her or change her, it simply assisted her to get in touch
with a part of her that before she wasn't able to access. Pryor to Impact Trainings,
I could always see this part of her and I always knew this was who she
really was, but she couldn't see it. After seeing the results in her, I
was sold and I also wanted to go through Impact Trainings.
I am also posting some of the links to Impact Trainings Videos. If you are concidering coming to Impact Trainings, take a moment and click on the links below and watch what graduates of Impact Trainings have to say about their experience and what they have learned.
Being in love again - What we learned at Impact Trainingsassisted
us in healing our marriage and rekindling our love. Once our marriage
was on track, we have been able to focus outside of ourselves and serve
our community.
This is Heaven- Impact Trainingshas
made significant changes in our family’s lives. I have never seen
anything that has assisted us in working through life’s challenges like Impact Trainings.
I loved what I got in touch with at Impact Trainings. I learned a lot
about me. The key for me was to be open and willing to see things
differently. When I first arrived at Impact Trainings I wasn’t very
open (OK I wasn’t open at all and I had no clue as to what I wanted
different), I didn’t know what to expect nor did I realize to what
depth the trainings were about to go to. I was expecting something
motivational, not life changing. What I noticed with in the first hour
was that many of the people in my group were very serious about
changing their lives (much more than I was). The group seemed to have a
very diverse backgrounds; everything from professional to blue collar,
housewives to homeless, young to old. It appeared to be a cross section
of life.
At first, I was just watching. I was surprised
that people were willing to be that open and honest about their lives.
At that moment, I definitely was NOT about to share anything. The fact
that people were willing to be totally honest threw me for a loop. I
had never seen anything like this before. People were supposed to smile
and pretend that things were OK. (At least that what I was taught) Not
to rock the boat. If you want to have a calm family, stuff it all down
so you can have peace at home, right? Otherwise all you have is yelling
and fighting (Now that I look back at how I used to live my life, I
smile and laugh. I was a ticking time bomb waiting to go off – usually
at my kids) At the same time I found it amazing (and a little
unsettling, how come they had the courage to be honest and I didn’t),
but it wasn’t just courage I lacked, I didn’t trust them. Why should I,
I had just met these people, so I watch… and listen… and learned… boy
did I learn. I started to notice that we weren’t all that different.
Many of the people sharing had similar experiences as I had. Others
felt the same way as I did about some things. Others wanted the same
things that I wanted (yes, before the end of the first day, I knew what
I wanted) and others were different than me (but for some reason, I was
OK with them being different). By the end of the first night, I was
starting to open up (at least on the inside) and get clear as to some
of the hard questions. Questions about myself. Questions that the only
place I would find the answers would be deep inside of me, deeper than
I had ever gone before. By time I got home, I was deep in reflection
and didn’t feel like talking. I knew what I wanted, but didn’t have a
clue as to how I would get there. I was just starting to see the walls
and they seemed insurmountable. At same time, I now knew why my wife
didn’t feel like talking much after her first day, but I also knew that
by the end of day four, everything had changed for her and I trusted
her. I was committed to see this through.
I am also posting some of the links to Impact Trainings Videos. If you are concidering coming to Impact Trainings, take a moment and click on the links below and watch what graduates of Impact Trainings have to say about their experience and what they have learned.
Being in love again - What we learned at Impact Trainingsassisted
us in healing our marriage and rekindling our love. Once our marriage
was on track, we have been able to focus outside of ourselves and serve
our community.
This is Heaven- Impact Trainingshas
made significant changes in our family’s lives. I have never seen
anything that has assisted us in working through life’s challenges like Impact Trainings.
When I woke for day two of Impact TrainingsQuest training, I was
feeling about the same as when I had fallen asleep, very deep in
reflection and didn't feel much like talking. The training was
scheduled to start at 3:00 pm, so I had a lot of time on my hands to go
over what I had experience the day before.
I had noticed that some people in the training were going for it and
giving it all they had. It was obvious that they wanted to change their
lives. There were also two or three people there who seemed to resist
everything that came up. Not only did it appear that they were
resistant to change anything, but they would argue with anyone or
anything that was different from them. At the time I didn’t realize it,
but I had a lot of judgment against these people. I felt bad for the
people in their lives who probably had to put up with their
stubbornness on a regular basis. Even with all of this, I wasn’t sure
if I was ready to open up either. I wanted too, but for some reason, I
wasn’t sure if I could. I was starting to realize that I was living my
life in a way that I avoided taking risks, especially in relationships.
If I didn’t let people get close, then they couldn’t hurt me, right?
As the day progressed, my emotional and mental walls became very clear.
I realized that although I was popular and had lots of friends, I
didn’t let any of them get too close (maybe that’s why I had lots of
friends, instead of just a few). I still didn’t want to open up. If I
did, I felt I would be too vulnerable. And I realized that if I let
people get close to me, I thought I might get hurt. I started to notice
patterns that were going on in my life. Things like, how I avoided
making commitments. I didn’t like being tied down. The more I looked,
the more I realized this was affecting everything in my life. It was
affecting my job, my marriage and my family. And it didn’t just affect
me, it was affecting the people who I was in relationship with. I
started to wonder how my commitment issues affected my wife. I had told
her over and over that I was committed and that I loved her, but I
started to wonder if she could sense the things I wasn’t saying. I
didn’t feel that I had been critical in our relationship, but in
looking back, I can see that I blamed her (a lot of it silently) for
most of the challenges we had gone through. She was the one that needed
to shift, not me. I was the happy one, so it couldn’t have been me, it
had to be her. No wonder half the marriages in the United States end in
divorce if they looked at things the way I did before going through Impact Trainings. (As I am writing this I am laughing at myself. My ego
was so naive and narcissistic that it really believed that other people
were the cause of my problems and if they would just change then
everything would be fine. Oh how funny life is.) As the day progressed,
my vision into myself became clearer and clearer. By the end of the
day, the life long behaviors that weren’t working in my life were very
obvious. The more I looked, the more I could see what I wanted to
change (I also could see a lot of my life that worked very well, but my
focus at this time was on changing the things that were not working in
my life, not defending the things that were working)
I also got in touch with how others perceived me (again, I was focusing
on the things that I might want to change, not the things that were
working well in my life). I wondered why it was that people saw
something different than what I was feeling on the inside. Couldn’t
they see who I really was? That night I had a lot of excuses (once
again, blaming others) as to why people couldn’t see the real me, but
it wasn’t until the next morning that the light bulb went on – How
could they see the real me, if I wasn’t willing to risk and open up and
show them the real me. I realized that this was also true in other
aspects of my life. I was always hiding part of me behind my image, my
persona, my jokes and even my smile. Always trying to protect myself.
If people could see through my masks, they would see everything, the
good, bad and the ugly. Would they still like me if they could see it
all?
Over the last two days, something had started to shift in me. I was
starting to let go of my judgments for others. Several people in the
training had been very honest and open about what was not working in
their lives. I found that I didn’t judge them for it or think less of
them. I actually admired their courage and felt closer to them. All of
these people were very different in so many ways, but that didn’t seem
to matter. I started to realize that we all have our own unique mix of
good and bad, ugly and beautiful. Maybe it was OK that I wasn’t perfect
in everyway. Maybe accepting others just the way they are makes them
perfect in that moment? Ether way, I was now ready to start my
training. I realized half my ImpactQuest Training had slipped by and
if I wanted anything to be different when it was over, it was time for
me to actively start moving forward and shifting what wasn’t working
for me.
I am also posting some of the links to Impact Trainings Videos. If you are concidering coming to Impact Trainings, take a moment and click on the links below and watch what graduates of Impact Trainings have to say about their experience and what they have learned.
Being in love again - What we learned at Impact Trainingsassisted
us in healing our marriage and rekindling our love. Once our marriage
was on track, we have been able to focus outside of ourselves and serve
our community.
This is Heaven- Impact Trainingshas
made significant changes in our family’s lives. I have never seen
anything that has assisted us in working through life’s challenges like Impact Trainings.
I have listed some sites that are sponsored by Impact Trainings. Impact Trainings post on a regular basis testimonials from their grads. All the sites listed below are similar, but I like reading what graduates of Impact Trainings have to say.
When Impact Trainings first put these sites up, they were very different one from another, but they all have evolved and look the same now. They contain testimonies of Graduates of Impact Trainings.
I am posting some of the links to Impact Trainings Videos. If you are concidering coming to Impact Trainings, take a moment and click on the links below and watch what graduates of Impact Trainings have to say about their experience and what they have learned.
Being in love again - What we learned at Impact Trainingsassisted us in healing our marriage and rekindling our love. Once our marriage was on track, we have been able to focus outside of ourselves and serve our community.
This is Heaven- Impact Trainingshas made significant changes in our family’s lives. I have never seen anything that has assisted us in working through life’s challenges like Impact Trainings.
Something deep within me was missing - Before Impact Training something was missing, I felt like I was dying inside and there was something more I was to do.
I have healed my body and my life - Before Impact Training, I was numb to life. I had a lot of pain, both physical and emotional. Impact Training has assisted me to heal my life.
My Family now communicates openly and honestly - Like most people, I was passing down the same family patterns and dynamics to my children that I had been raised with. Impact Training assisted me in breaking those patterns.
I was able to align my passion and my career - I went through Impact Training at a very critical time in my life when I was deciding what profession I wanted to be a part of. What I learned at Impact Training assisted me in picking a path that was in alignment with my passion.
Like I said in my last post, I didn’t need Impact Trainings (but I am sure glad I went). I was happy. I loved my job. I loved my family. Things were going good. But after seeing my wife go through Impact Trainings, I wanted to be on the same page as she was. She was moving forward in her life and I wanted that. At the time, I couldn’t quite put my finger on what “that” was, but something inside of me wanted “that”. In looking back, I can now see that after going through Impact Trainings, she was alive. Not just breathing or going through the motions, but really alive and enjoying ever moment. It didn’t seem to matter what she was doing, she enjoyed it. I was happy, but she had something I was missing. She was happy because of what was going on inside of her. I was happy because things were going well on the outside of me. Like I said, at the time I didn’t know it, but “that” was inner peace and I hungered for it. I was actually starving for it and didn’t realize it. No matter how happy I was, no matter how good things in my life were going, no matter how much money or success I achieved, there was something inside missing and I could feel the void when I was around her because she had it and I didn’t. (It didn’t always feel like a void, I just wanted to be with her. I felt good when I was with her. One more time, I was looking to something outside of me to fill what was missing on the inside.) But that’s all jumping ahead. At the time I went into Impact Trainings Quest, I didn’t realize any of that. As a matter of fact, I wasn’t able to tell you much of anything about how I felt. Pryor to Impact Trainings, if you had asked me how I felt, I would of answered something like: hungry, cold, hot, good or fine (Oh yea, there were a couple of emotions I was very in touch with – anger and frustration, but I kept those bottled up deep inside of me; you never would have guessed it by looking at me – all smiles.) But that all changed after going through Impact Trainings. The smile now comes from deep inside and peace is mine.
Impact Trainings is one of the most amazing experiences I have ever had. It assisted me in taking a deep look at what was working in my life and what was not working. From there I have been able to make changes and improve quality of life significantly.
