2. I hear all the time, "I'd love to quit my job to follow my purpose, but I've got responsibilities!" This artificial distinction is misleading. Your responsibilities are not keeping you from your purpose, they are part of your purpose, often the very most important part. Envisioning your responsibilities as being outside the circle of "purpose" will lead you to make bad decisions about your life.
3. Pervasive in our society the last six years was what I call, "The Modern Dream Machine Industry." Media companies made a killing selling content to consumers (#1 example: The Secret) that used the term "passion" loosely and vaguely, and made false claims that a dream life was right around the corner if you just dusted off your fantasies and pursued them. This was what I condemn as "selling transformation irresponsibly." My book unfortunately, by some, was lumped into that -- but it couldn't have been more different and more antithetical. My book was not a fantasy; it examined the lives of a thousand real people, and told the story of fifty -- it asked how real people did it, and told their story honestly. For those who want it boiled down to Seven Simple Steps? Step One: stop pretending we're all on the same staircase.
4. The Fallacy of Intrinsic Fit. There is this notion around calling that you should love the mere act of what you do every day so much that by virtue of it just being Monday morning and you're at your job, the act of doing it causes neurotransmitters of joy to drip on your brain all day. That is not how real people do it. All jobs have shit work. All jobs have things you hate about them. But real people feel fulfilled by the overall purpose of their organization that the shitty parts are worth putting up with. It's not what you do, it's what you're working towards.
5. There's an old parable about the three bricklayers. They're laying bricks all morning, and when they finally get a break, one guy asks the other two, "Why are you doing this job?" The first guy says, "I'm doing it for the wages." The second guy says, "I'm doing it for my wife and kids." The third guy looks up at what they've been constructing all morning, which is a church -- a place to get in touch with one's highest self -- and says, "I'm helping to build a cathedral." Now, most people hear this parable, and they think the third guy has the right answer, and the first two guys have the wrong answer. That's the simplistic lesson that most people jump to, led their by their mythic notions of calling. But that is not the lesson of the parable. In fact, all three men have a sense of purpose -- have a "cathedral," if you will. The first guy has the Cathedral of Spirituality. Good for him. But the second guy has his too. The Cathedral of Family. And the third guy has the Cathedral of Self-sufficiency. Those are all good purposes. Those are all right answers. The real lesson of the parable is, notice what no man answered. Not one of the three said, "I just love laying bricks." Doing something for the sheer love of it is not what real people mean when they say their work provides a sense of purpose. That is not how they construct a sense of meaning and rightness. Looking for it, in that form, is incredibly illusory.
6. There is no one-perfect-thing each of us is meant to do on this planet. Give me a break. Where'd that myth come from? If someone repeats it, throw a glass of water on them. For each of us, there are dozens, hundreds of careers, any one of which could provide you a sense of meaning and goodness. You don't have to find "The One," you just have to find any one. The biggest mistake is being seduced by the myth that you're looking for the right answer, as if there is only one answer. It's just so damn easy to look upon someone else and jealously think, "Wow, he sure got lucky." Real people did not have great opportunities fall in their lap. Mostly, crappy opportunities come along, and in the meantime, you make the best of them. But that skill and habit, of making the best of your situation, is essential training. Because one day, a good opportunity will come along. And if you make the best of it -- if you're good at making the best of things -- you will turn it into a great situation. A "calling" is not something you know, the moment you see it. For real people, in the real world, a sense of "calling" is something you grow into, over the course of your life, by having an impact on your organization and the community around you. In this way, it provides a sense of belonging and relevance. Or in the terminology of engineers, one enters a phase of "positive feedback experience" that makes you feel good about being where you are.
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January 14, 2009 at 4:58pm by Manjit Syven Birk
Nice reprise of the Cathedral allegory. Ten years ago if I thought the core questions of today would be not that much different to the core questions, I would wonder what all the huff and puff of the personal transformation industry actually is. There is no substitute for solid in one's face truth. Face it or fear it seems to me a logical rather than emotional choice. It is fear that mostly leads to silence and such silence can be deafening.
My personal plan of action was to resurface here in January of 2009 and I envisioned being apart of some real amazing social energy, but clearly we are in a period of introspective something-something which is root based (growing downward into the dark) rather than life based (growing upwards into the light). Inspiration can be bought but inspiration is a poor decoration. It is personal action which is the blood brother of inspiration.
A plan is as good as the guess about what tomorrow might bring so I basically echo what Po Bronson says in this article. My best guess is that if my thinking is right, my ideas remain bright and my objectives create sight, it should be possible to theoretically emerge on the other side stronger in this fight. I will pop back on July 4th, and see what the energy level here is then, until then I will pay heed to Po Bronson, and get my head down and do what needs to be done. The alternative is the abyss where endless thinking lacking start value.
M.
January 15, 2009 at 12:31am by Eben Carlson
Those interested in these questions might find my site www.whiteg.com interesting. There is more evidence for an immediate future ripe with dripping "neurotransmitters of joy" than conventional experts know, Mr. Bronson included.
January 15, 2009 at 10:57am by Manjit Syven Birk
I thought he made a great point about forming mythic expectancy and entertaining fallacy in citing "neurotransmitters of joy". My takeaway from this article is about facing one's reality rather than simply blindly following the norm, to live life to the best of your own given abilities rather than judge what it is that others do or consume. The last line of the article sums it all up for me where Bronson says ["If you are not willing to put up with some shit work, you will never recognize that a good opportunity is staring you in the face. If you are not willing to be humble and repeatedly be a beginner in new areas and learn the details faster than the next guy, you are not capable of transformation."] I too consumed a major fallacy which is that one can eradicate illusion, yet I came to understand that one cannot remove illusion in the modern world, at best we can diligently modify illusion so it moves us personally closer to our own desired picture of objective reality or serves a more practical purpose. Understanding how our own mind works is a good step in that regard for then IMHO one can deal with any oncoming illusion or any bruised ego that stalwartly defends any painless mythical utopia. When we are too busy trying to figure out how other mind's work IMHO we begin to earn a degree in human exploitation. When we notice our own mind works, what we earn is our own freedom and here I support Bronson's statement : [This was what I condemn "selling transformation irresponsibly."]. Unless others voices care to express their views to this article, I will take my leave and return here on July 4th. M.
January 15, 2009 at 2:35pm by Eben Carlson
My point was that we don't know how the brain works. We think some pain is inevitable--just like we think some waste and friction is inevitable. But these observations are based on our emotional experience. There is some significant rational and scientific evidence to suggest that hyper-efficient systems are about to arise, which will allow a goodly portion of us to labor without what Po calls shit work, and for machines to operate without waste adn for the economy to grow faster and more efficiently without destroying the environment. It's all based on new physics--which started with the discovery of dark energy in 1998. Again, at the risk of tooting my own horn--a trip to www.whiteg.com might be instructive. --Best.
January 15, 2009 at 3:28pm by Manjit Syven Birk
Eban, nothing wrong with tooting horns, I am just expressing the way I view it. I give you credit because you have engaged a conversation. Ten years ago I signed the Cluetrain Manifesto that spoke of markets as conversations. My original reference to ten years is totally in line with that manifesto. I did go to the Chris Dannen thread about Steve Jobs but I clicked onto a discussion group that led with the question "Leave Jobs Alone". I didn't think ten years later we would be so dominated by brand. My expectations of 2009 in 1999 were simple, that ten years, we would all be having conversations that matter. How we climbed into an age of superficiality and pettiness is something I do not know, but believe you me, I respect you for responding. Now I will sign off and sit back and watch the conversation unfold. I am figuring it is the shock of the economy that has stifled conversation, so I will sit back for six months and hope things brighten up. You are right to say we don't know much about the workings of the human brain, but conversations begin from the heart and not just because we are in a market. Thxs Eban. M.
January 17, 2009 at 8:41pm by George Thompson
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January 22, 2009 at 5:20pm by prav777 yadav
It's been months since I last wrote here. They started sending me reminders on 'Updating Your Blog'. Well, I'm very much to be blamed for this, it's not that I've forgotten you all, it's just that I was attached to a fast track project where internet access was rather difficult. Now that I'm back at HQ, I'm taking this opportunity to update you all on some development in my career and perhaps some good stories in the next entries.
Firstly, I think it's not too late to wish you a very Happy and Prosperous New Year. 2005 was just too ugly to be discussed. Hoping that 2006 would bring more happiness and $$$$, hahaha.
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January 22, 2009 at 5:20pm by prav777 yadav
It's been months since I last wrote here. They started sending me reminders on 'Updating Your Blog'. Well, I'm very much to be blamed for this, it's not that I've forgotten you all, it's just that I was attached to a fast track project where internet access was rather difficult. Now that I'm back at HQ, I'm taking this opportunity to update you all on some development in my career and perhaps some good stories in the next entries.
Firstly, I think it's not too late to wish you a very Happy and Prosperous New Year. 2005 was just too ugly to be discussed. Hoping that 2006 would bring more happiness and $$$$, hahaha.
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February 26, 2009 at 6:52am by Cristina Redante
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May 2, 2009 at 9:30am by eric shannon
that is phenomenal advice Po!
today many are experiencing real anxiety... those that haven't been laid off as well as those that have, business owners and everyone in between. Understanding what to do with anxiety is important for getting the right outcome. I wrote some advice about that in Job anxiety? Listen up!. Hope you find it useful.
-- Eric
May 7, 2009 at 4:47am by Jordan NKS
Firstly, i would say that the article is well written. Here are my points of view in reference to this article:
1)I second this thought by adding that most people are not born into success. They have to work shit and some get better and lucky because they have nice bosses.
I think it is not right to think of it this way. If a person is irresponsible at work, how can he be responsible for his personal life? As an employee, you are already tasked to do something for the company. That is your responsibility in exchange for the company’s trust.
3)Agree. It never was the same. How can there be a step by step approach? It is up to the individual to analyse where he stands? What his roles are? No one knows better then the person himself. So these books are for reading and thinking.
4)Partially agree. Perhaps where u are working towards is not where the company is going after all? Chrysler is gone already. What happened to the people then? Certainly it does not apply in this sense. And taking a look at what happens nowadays with mergers and acquisitions, who the hell knows where the company is heading?
I do agree to an extent that neuro transmitters do play a part in personal well –feeling. But isn’t that all too scientific? So a person with lesser happiness is lacking it and what can he do? And having more of that makes him motivated? How often should he go for a jab to stay that way? I am unsure how to feel good all the time.
5. I like this one because it is very illustrious and descriptive. But in reality, I love the sun, sea and glorious food and gorgeous babes. However, in Asia, there is no such job available. So I end up making end meets first, then save some money so I can go on annual holidays for the sun, sea and glorious food…. Still no gorgeous babes.
So I agree that there is no right or wrong in this answer. Even for a sense of meaning and rightness, we have seen numerous cases of charity organisations in the doldrums due to embezzlement charges and fraud. How ‘right’ are we and how long can we withstand temptation? If 5million dollars is not tempting enough, how about 30million? What does this mean then? I sure like to work in a charity.
6. I agree on this one, Seize the day! Use whatever you have to improve yourself. Make changes and live today.
7.I think this is basic. What other choice do we have nowadays? The old economy is gone. The internet has made business really competitive. Customers are resourceful, they can get cheaper quotes and we have to think of ways to retain them. People learn skills easily over the net too. SAP makes delivery of goods faster. No one is even interested in quality standards like ISO, Six Sigma Black belt… etc because these are considered necessary standards for corporate business. It is already a given and no longer marketed as an advantage. What you have, others have it too.
The barriers of entry are small per se for small and medium business. And its basically a “big fish eat small fish” situation. If we are nobody, then we have to be humble.
About the workforce, there are so many people with double PHDs with at least 2 specializations. Take a look at China where the educated workforce are increasing in numbers. Are we all that competitive afterall? The thing is they keep on learning and we should too.
And about life being hard…. I have seen people with real hardships. Walking many miles, clinging on to a rope whilst crossing river rapids just to get to school; Question is why are they doing that? The reason is they genuinely want to improve their lives and that is what I call transformation.
cheers.
May 7, 2009 at 4:47am by Jordan NKS
Firstly, i would say that the article is well written. Here are my points of view in reference to this article:
1)I second this thought by adding that most people are not born into success. They have to work shit and some get better and lucky because they have nice bosses.
I think it is not right to think of it this way. If a person is irresponsible at work, how can he be responsible for his personal life? As an employee, you are already tasked to do something for the company. That is your responsibility in exchange for the company’s trust.
3)Agree. It never was the same. How can there be a step by step approach? It is up to the individual to analyse where he stands? What his roles are? No one knows better then the person himself. So these books are for reading and thinking.
4)Partially agree. Perhaps where u are working towards is not where the company is going after all? Chrysler is gone already. What happened to the people then? Certainly it does not apply in this sense. And taking a look at what happens nowadays with mergers and acquisitions, who the hell knows where the company is heading?
I do agree to an extent that neuro transmitters do play a part in personal well –feeling. But isn’t that all too scientific? So a person with lesser happiness is lacking it and what can he do? And having more of that makes him motivated? How often should he go for a jab to stay that way? I am unsure how to feel good all the time.
5. I like this one because it is very illustrious and descriptive. But in reality, I love the sun, sea and glorious food and gorgeous babes. However, in Asia, there is no such job available. So I end up making end meets first, then save some money so I can go on annual holidays for the sun, sea and glorious food…. Still no gorgeous babes.
So I agree that there is no right or wrong in this answer. Even for a sense of meaning and rightness, we have seen numerous cases of charity organisations in the doldrums due to embezzlement charges and fraud. How ‘right’ are we and how long can we withstand temptation? If 5million dollars is not tempting enough, how about 30million? What does this mean then? I sure like to work in a charity.
6. I agree on this one, Seize the day! Use whatever you have to improve yourself. Make changes and live today.
7.I think this is basic. What other choice do we have nowadays? The old economy is gone. The internet has made business really competitive. Customers are resourceful, they can get cheaper quotes and we have to think of ways to retain them. People learn skills easily over the net too. SAP makes delivery of goods faster. No one is even interested in quality standards like ISO, Six Sigma Black belt… etc because these are considered necessary standards for corporate business. It is already a given and no longer marketed as an advantage. What you have, others have it too.
The barriers of entry are small per se for small and medium business. And its basically a “big fish eat small fish” situation. If we are nobody, then we have to be humble.
About the workforce, there are so many people with double PHDs with at least 2 specializations. Take a look at China where the educated workforce are increasing in numbers. Are we all that competitive afterall? The thing is they keep on learning and we should too.
And about life being hard…. I have seen people with real hardships. Walking many miles, clinging on to a rope whilst crossing river rapids just to get to school; Question is why are they doing that? The reason is they genuinely want to improve their lives and that is what I call transformation.
cheers.
June 23, 2009 at 12:52am by Alexis Monroe
Well-written article.
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August 10, 2009 at 9:37am by Sergio Mokko
The whole business world is now such a problem. Main - not to stop and move forward. Work on yourself and never give up. By Sergio
September 26, 2009 at 3:47am by fotograf Bielsko
thats great being here. very nice work done.
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October 18, 2009 at 1:20pm by ruengsook pompak
thx for share… great post…
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