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Do I Really Want to Accept that Friend Request?

I came to work today with an email alerting me to a friend request on Facebook. It was someone from High School who, not only was I not close with, kind of acted like a jerk toward me. So what is the etiquette here? Do I just ignore his request? Do I friend him and start a dialogue to see if he has changed?

The answer to this conundrum may come down to how a person uses social networking. Why do you create a profile page on any of the networks? I created the Facebook profile on a bit of lark. Would I mind getting a message from a high school friend that I have fallen out of touch with? No. Do I mind that someone who wasn't a friend has contacted me? I am still not sure. Much like the creation of said profile, I am ambivalent. And in this day and age, where social networking has become so common place, others must be facing this same dilemma.

So, do you accept every friend request you get? Why or why not?

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  • Donovan Wadholm

    What do you have to loose? If the guy is still a jerk you can just delete him. The nice thing about being an adult and not in high school anymore is that you can choose who you hang out with.

    Also, it's not like you are required meet up with the guy. Sometimes it is just interesting to see what they have been up to since then. Who knows you might have something in common now that you didn't have then.

    Finally, people have a way of growing up in their mid to late 20s. Think about how much you may have changed since high school.