A lack of information can cause fear, confusion and anxiety. In relationships, this can lead to friction, misunderstanding and hurt. Information is the key to diffusing fear, reaching understanding and gaining clarity.

It has been suggested that information is energy “in-formation”. What does this mean? Words give substance and form to thoughts and feelings, thereby creating information. When doing research, you go to the internet, type in a few words and find the information that you need. In relationships, you put words around your fears, thoughts and feelings to create an understanding. Ideally, you ask your significant other to do the same and voila! You both have information.

Imagine a situation with a loved one where you were confused over his behavior. Something happened and he responded in a way that confused you. You then stewed over what he may have meant, what he was feeling or thinking. You worry about how this impacts your relationship, and on and on. The mind goes into a tailspin over the various possible meanings.

In this example, give words to your feelings, thoughts and behavior. Give it form even if it’s the form of “I’m confused”. Communicate with your significant other and ask them to do the same. In doing so, you will both have an understanding of what happened, the intentions behind the action, the feelings, concerns and gifts from the outcome.

When you have information, you have clarity. With clarity the confusion, fear and anxiety are diffused. You now have a sense of peace around the situation and can make choices that are respectful and honorable for all.

Give yourself the peace of information when you need it. Offer others information and seek it from others. You will have more understanding in your relationships which will allow more love to come in.

Julie Farha is an intuitive, personal coach, speaker and author of Exploring Your Potential; Who am I and what am I doing here? She holds interactive seminars and is available for private sessions and speaking engagements. Julie@JulieFarha.com, www.JulieFarha.com 480-998-1447