We all have our stuff… our issues to be recognized, wounds to heal,
negative patterns to end. Every relationship experience and every
experience in a relationship is an opportunity to discover something
about yourself by recognizing unhealthy patterns, healing wounds, and
identifying what it is you want and don’t want in your relationships.

Each relationship holds a gift, no matter how bad the experience! As
you recognize issues, wounds and patterns, you move closer and closer
to the genuine, authentic and fulfilling relationships you desire.

Relationships seem to magnify our issues. Your issues could include
lack of self worth, neediness or co-dependency. Maybe you have
insecurities or a need to control. Anger not expressed in a healthy way
can become suppressed and therefore problematic.

Wounds may be from betrayal of trust due to infidelity, deception or
repeated dishonesty. You may have been harshly rejected by someone and
feel the pain of humiliation. Perhaps you’ve been verbally, emotionally
or physically abused which is very harmful to one’s psyche and sense of
safety and well being.

Negative patterns can arise from all of these experiences if you
don’t recognize them. You’ll continue creating these challenging
situations over and over. Some examples of these are:

• If you lack self worth and
value, you may repeatedly attract abusive, controlling mates, or
perpetuate your issues of co-dependency by feeling your needs aren’t
important.

• Passive aggressive behavior is common if you don’t acknowledge and express your anger in a healthy way.

• The need to control causes obsessive and sometimes irrational behavior as you try to dominate your mate.

• Allowing yourself to be
treated with disrespect and disregard in every relationship can be a
more difficult pattern to see yet is common.

• Fear of being betrayed again may keep you from seeing that your new partner is trustworthy.

Review your past relationship and identify something from one or all
of these areas. Release the issue, heal the wound, change the pattern.

Bring this new “you” into your present and future relationships which
will be healthier and more genuine and fulfilling!

Julie Farha is an intuitive, personal coach, speaker and author of Exploring Your Potential; Who am I and what am I doing here? She holds interactive seminars and is available for private sessions and speaking engagements. Julie@JulieFarha.com, www.JulieFarha.com 480-998-1447